Alone Time: Self-Care For A Healthy Mind & Body

This time of year can be quite stressful for many of us: we stretch our budgets for holiday gifts, students take finals and family members get on each others nerves at the dinner table. Most of the time we are simply trying to get through these events unscathed, but there is often a piece many of us are don’t consider….

SELF-CARE: maintenance of physical, emotional, spiritual and mental health intended to improve or restore.

Now of course, self-care is not something to do during only the holidays, it’s something we should engage in at all times,regardless of age, gender, ethnicity or socio-economic background. Before you get too hard on yourself for notpracticing enough self-care, consider this major obstacle:

Overstimulation—we are constantly consumed by work, family, TV, text messaging, Facebooking, Pinning and whatever else you do! Our society’s message is not “care for yourself” but rather “stimulate yourself!” It is so easy to get caught up in doing that we get out of touch with simply being.

For many, we are constantly on the go balancing work and personal life and leave little time to ourselves. Note that time TO ourselves is different than time FOR ourselves. Time to ourselves is time alone; time we can sit with ourselves, our thoughts, our bodies and our emotions. It is often not until we have that time to ourselves that we can truly unwind and get in touch with the toll our daily stressors have taken on us physically, mentally and emotionally. And yes extroverts, you too need alone time!

When we don’t carve out time alone to get in touch with those things, we don’t even realize they are there and sometimes we won’t realize they exist until they hit us in a big way—like panic attacks, burnout, physical ailments, meltdowns, substance use and crying fits.

Our bodies tell us what we need, but we just need to take the time to listen. And when we take that time to listen, we not only can discover what we need for restoration and recovery, but also what we can do to prevent physical, mental and emotional wear and tear.

So what should you do in that alone time?

1. Find a quiet space

2. Turn off or put away your electronics

3. Find a comfortable seated or laying position and take a moment to notice and feel your body settle… this is where your mindfulness and deep breathing skills come in handy!

4. Sit still and observe!

Observe your body’s physical sensations—use a formal body scan or simply check in with your body for tension, tightness, heat, cold, spasms and whatever else you feel.

Observe your thoughts—Again you can use a formal mindfulness practice or just begin by checking in with your mind.

What is the quality of your mind? Racing thoughts, slow, chaotic, foggy?

What is the quality of your thoughts? Replaying one over and over, jumping from one to the other, repeating a theme?

What is the quality of your emotions? Disconnected, aroused, anxious, stressed, sad, angry?

*** If you feel unable to sit/lay still, notice what is going on for you and what your obstacles are.

5. Use what you’ve observed to make a plan! 

My mind and body need….

Social support

Relaxation

Exercise/physical activity

Writing/journaling

Religious/spiritual practice

Sleep

Music

Nature

Meditation

Therapy

For a healthy mind and body, we need to know what we need to repair, restore and prevent and we can only know this by taking the time to listen.

One Comment on “Alone Time: Self-Care For A Healthy Mind & Body

  1. Pingback: Practical Tips for Real Life Self-Care « PCOM Self-Care Club

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